Toxic Relationships Among Campus Students

 "Agnes " used to come to my room in the hostel all drained after every meet up with the boyfriend .I was concerned after observing this behaviour for quite some time but she always said she was OK,just tired from hikes and the talk with "Gabriel".

We were close friend with Agnes and shared even our secrets but this did not go for long,she started to spend less time with me and the other two friends of ours. We used to have a group discussion thrice a week and then sometimes attended the choir all together hosted in C.U department but she started to skip them.

The relation among us started to decrease at a level that most of us did not realise until Agnes' performance brought my attention and insisted to know what could be the problem with her since she came from a well established family and never struggled in campus as most of us did,that made her divert from us completely, she stopped receiving our calls,attended less lectures and disassociated from everyone in an awkward way.

We decided to take the action on our hands by talking to  the boyfriend .He  defended himself that all was alright between him and Agnes but said that our friend had told him that she was no longer interested in our friendship.

My friends gave up but i felt there was something which was not going right with Agnes and i decided to sneak into her room when everyone else had gone out only to find her crying mercilessly. She could no longer hold on and  had to let out what she was going through in her relationship, i could not stop but felt sorry for my friend .She explained that she worried to speak up and that every time she made a decision to leave her love life,Gabriel would compensate his former evil behaviour with good deeds,enticing her for coverage .This  made her stay to  try to fixing her relationship with him,hoping he will change one day.

The sad part is that Gabriel would bit her up whenever she tempted to disagree his decision on certain issues,disconnected her from us,never respected her boundaries,manipulated her and  everything was all about him.

Well ,it was not too late for my friend since i personally took a step of sisterhood for her, gave a shoulder to lean on and and persuaded her to book for a therapy which she complied with .Also,we met with Gabriel and held a discussion concerning what they were both going through and whether they were ready to fix things and relate in the right way and  agreed to do so but Agnes requested for a breakup .She needed time to heal and everyone respected her decision. 

Leaving that alone,toxicity is real among campus students . Young people are falling in love with toxic partners who manipulate them to a point of no correction that leads  to worst outcome than my friends' above.You never know you are in a toxic relationship since it starts in a very healthy way but partners start experiencing changes as time going by and they are too ignorant to note or let us just say too blinded .

If we as students,parents ,peers and elder comrades are not going to take action of guiding and counselling our young  friends,sons,daughters we are still going to move in the same circle in our generation and we continue wondering at the end of the day why our young people are not graduating despite having high potentiality, why people are divorcing in tender ages in marriages,why they are becoming drug abusers and why the rate of murder between lovers is increasing day by day.

Let us embrace and create a room for our young generation especially  those in campus by  initiating  healthy communication with them  as parents and guardian, feel a burden of knowing of their whereabouts and any kind of challenges they go through while fighting for success.